From Curiosity to Change
"I used to believe that things were just the way they were—boys acted one way, girls another. But now, I understand that we have the power to question and change what’s unfair."- Bisesh BK
The first time I met Bisesh BK, he was just another curious face in the crowd. By the time I watched him change in the small shifts that truly define growth. He started asking questions, he was more attentive he shared what he learned with his friends. It was in these moments that I realized: Bisesh wasn’t just attending the sessions; he was transforming through them.
This is the story of a boy who started with curiosity and ended with a belief that true learning happens when we dare to challenge what we’ve always believed."
Bisesh grew up in a difficult environment. His father, an alcoholic, often engaged in domestic violence, leaving a lasting impact on his family. After his father's passing, Bisesh moved from his village to Kathmandu, living at St. Xavier Social Service Centre and continuing his studies at Mamata Rani School.
In class 7, he joined Patan High School—a completely new environment for him. Curious and eager to learn, he came across a weMEN club through Anita Paudel (teacher). He had no prior knowledge of topics like feminism or gender equality, but his willingness to explore new ideas led him to join.
"At first, I didn’t think it was something important for me. But I wanted to learn, so I stayed."
One session stood out the most—watching the short film NATKHAT. The movie portrayed how children unknowingly imitate the actions of adults, sometimes replicating harmful behaviors.
"That scene hit me hard. I remembered how, as a child, I used to pretend to be my father—staggering around like I was drunk, even though I didn’t understand what it meant. I didn’t know if it was right or wrong back then. Now, I do." This realization made him reflect on how children absorb behaviors from their surroundings, reinforcing negative cycles without even realizing it.
Bisesh didn’t just keep his learning to himself—he started sharing it with others. Whenever he learned something new, he made sure his friends understood it too. His confidence grew, and he became more vocal about equality and respect.
"If we want change, we have to start with what we have. We don’t need big things—just the willingness to speak up and act."
At home, at school, and among his friends, he started breaking old patterns. He didn’t force anyone to change but inspired them by setting an example.
His message to others is simple: "Learn and learn more. Change doesn’t need big things—just start with what’s around you."
Bisesh’s journey proves that awareness can lead to transformation. He entered the club as a boy who knew nothing about gender equality. He left as someone who understands its importance and actively practices it. His story is a reminder that change begins with a single step—and the courage to take it.